Dear ____,
I haven't spent much more than a few hours in time talking with you since I have met you. Before meeting for the first time I remember being nervous. It was at the time not what your son said of you but how you spoke of you. I could tell you were a woman who he would uphold a standard to all women he would meet. You truly raised the best man I have ever known. Sure he isn't perfect but what was instilled with him since childhood is real character. He made choices for himself and is truly a man of God. He is humble and loving. I hope in seeing how dearly I love him shows you just why I had a hard time letting go of what relationship we did have and ideals for what we could have. I realize my idealistic views of what a mother in law and a daughter in law could have are not easy. Life and our own choices get in the way.
For the longest time I thought it was me. I needed to try harder. I needed to live up to who you would want your son to share his life with. I thought if I just tried harder and loved deeper you would come around. You would leave the hurt filled ones in your life and make time for us. No that did not happen. I got angry. I felt hurt. All the while your life remained the same.
Through God's grace I am forgiven. I am forgiven and only because of Jesus.
Have you ever seen someone you deeply care for falling tragically, even though their decisions do not directly effect you, they create a wound in own heart? This is how I feel. I can say from watching Kevin hurt that I perhaps he feels the same. Possibly though now he is numb to the feelings that once captivated his mind. I think its harder woman to woman to let you go. I see so much potential in you.
Now is the current season of my life to focus on. Perhaps for me and others out there this is the hardest part of moving on in life. We have to focus on the life we currently have. The hurt of losing someone has to come along day to day during my life now. Its not easy to know life goes on for the other side. Life goes on in a care free way for you with the family you are close to. What drives me to move forward is God. There is a part of me that wants to stay and wallow in sadness but God has more for me. He's made it clear that I cannot move forward with the kingdom work if I am pulled down by this void. I am working day to day letting God fill the void, that he is more than faithful to do.
I look forward to the future. I promise myself to be all I can as a matriarch for my family. I don't promise to be perfect but I promise my family to not give up. I never had a relationship with either of my grandmothers growing up. One left this earth too early to meet her and the other was just a name on an adoption paper. I move forward letting go of the grandmother my children could have in order to become the grandmother and woman my children need. I can do this only because of God. His forgiveness calls my heart to forgive.
Love Always Amber
Have you ever seen someone you deeply care for falling tragically, even though their decisions do not directly effect you, they create a wound in own heart? This is how I feel. I can say from watching Kevin hurt that I perhaps he feels the same. Possibly though now he is numb to the feelings that once captivated his mind. I think its harder woman to woman to let you go. I see so much potential in you.
Now is the current season of my life to focus on. Perhaps for me and others out there this is the hardest part of moving on in life. We have to focus on the life we currently have. The hurt of losing someone has to come along day to day during my life now. Its not easy to know life goes on for the other side. Life goes on in a care free way for you with the family you are close to. What drives me to move forward is God. There is a part of me that wants to stay and wallow in sadness but God has more for me. He's made it clear that I cannot move forward with the kingdom work if I am pulled down by this void. I am working day to day letting God fill the void, that he is more than faithful to do.
I look forward to the future. I promise myself to be all I can as a matriarch for my family. I don't promise to be perfect but I promise my family to not give up. I never had a relationship with either of my grandmothers growing up. One left this earth too early to meet her and the other was just a name on an adoption paper. I move forward letting go of the grandmother my children could have in order to become the grandmother and woman my children need. I can do this only because of God. His forgiveness calls my heart to forgive.
Love Always Amber